A year ago, during Sukkoth, our son announced to us that he is gay.
A few weeks later I began to express my feelings in this blog.
It has been an incredible journey.
We have learned so much. We have met so many people. And we have changed.
As parents, the world as we knew it shattered, as soon as our son came out to us. Our dreams came to an abrupt end. The world of our daughters irrevocably changed as they were forced to come to grips with their new reality.
Our faith in God has come into question and the trust that we thought we had in our friends has diminished.
But we were able to pick up the pieces and rebuild around our new reality.
We sought advice from our rabbi. This turned out to be a dead-end.
We joined a local chapter of PFLAG. We became friends with some nice people who have been through this journey in their lives. They have shown us how to celebrate the positive aspects of our new reality.
We reached out to whoever we felt could offer us assistance. Rabbi Steve Greenberg spent a few hours talking with me right after our son came out. He was a tremendous source of strength. Dr. Naomi Mark gave me the courage to continue writing in this blog. Dr. Linda Freedman willingly offered her services to me whenever I needed it, and there were times when I really needed it. Rabbi Michael Balinsky gave me his encouragement as a dear, old friend.
We chose to tell some of our friends in a cautious, deliberate manner, over the space of this past year. Those with whom we shared have been a source of strength for us.
Only some members of our family know.
And this blog has exposed us to a new world. The postings have elicited responses from gay men and women and their parents. We have become close with all who have chosen to have a dialogue with us. There are many emails that are written in private between us and we all have grown as we used this blog and its instruments as a forum to share our thoughts and our stories.
Our family has changed and grown. We have grown closer together and as individuals we have all grown stronger.
During this past Sukkoth, as we sat around the table, the discussion turned to this blog. My son turned to me and said that it is time to take a less lachrymose approach in the blog. I told him that I agree with him. I said that the mourning period has drawn to an end and that it is now time to move from sadness to advocacy.
He nodded and the discussion moved on to another topic.
The waters remain uncharted, but we can navigate knowing that it will all be good.